About two and half years back, I wrote quite a controversial piece on marriages in India. The point I was trying to put across was, there are a few crucial things that you need to know about your partner before you get hitched, tie the knot, say ‘I do’… you know, the works.
In a country where arranged marriages are prevalent, how much does one really know about a prospective bride or groom before taking such a major decision? And keeping that in mind, love marriages are no better. I have heard of so many shocking stories about how new brides/husbands are jolted out of their happily-ever-afters, with revelations they never had a clue about; even if they have dated their husbands/wives, sometimes for years.
What is the solution to this problem? After interviewing many married couples, dating couples and singles at that time, I came up with 35 intimate questions you need to know about your would-be, before saying the all-important “yes”.
Now, make no mistake, I am not ask
ing you to tie your would-be up in a chair, splash cold water over him/her and torture him/her until you get your answers. But, isn’t it always good to know as much as you can about who you are going to spend your life with, so that you don’t get rude shocks later in life?
How about if you can’t ask? Get someone close to you to find out. My only point is, find out now, before it is too late.
Here are some excerpts from that piece. I have picked 10 important things to know before saying ‘I do’. To read the entire story, click: 35 INTIMATE questions to ask your would-be!